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Knowledge, Tips & Advice For Parents

How to help my child (re-) integrate at school

by Michel Thibeault, Head Teacher

dsc_16891 Kru Michel, Head Teacher of Panyaden School Chiang Mai

The summer holiday is over and many students are excited to be back at school and see old friends and teachers. Others are more anxious about making friends in a new environment. Whether your child is coming back to known territory or not, you can help ease the transition back at school.

For many preschool children, having been away for 2 months is almost the equivalent of never having been to school! Here a few simple things that can make a big difference:

  • Be convinced and make it clear to your child that coming to school will be a positive experience
  • Be attentive to their difficulties but do not leave room for them to change your mind: you have already analysed the school and decided to trust it. No reason to change that now.
  • Make sure you spend a lot of direct contact time with your child after school and before school in the morning.
  • A quick kiss and goodbye is preferable to sneaking away or saying goodbye three times.
  • Communicate your child’s special interests and needs to his teachers, either verbally or through the communication book.

Teachers are aware that for Prathomsuksa students, making friends is usually a top priority. They will organize many “ice breaking” activities in the first few weeks. You can help in many ways:

  • Make sure your child arrives to school 5 to 15 minutes before the bell rings so he or she has time to play with friends.
  • Communicate your child’s special interests and needs or issues to his teachers, either verbally or through the communication book.
  • Sign up your child for an after school club
  • Take the time to listen to your child’s issues. Share your own challenges with relationships when appropriate but refrain from offering solutions to his problem. A few questions to help him or her think it through are usually more beneficial.
  • Know and support the school code of conduct and the 12 Wise Habits. A consistent environment generates a sense of security.

 

Today’s Special Treat @Panyaden

IMG_7574 Masters of Panyaden wise habits

Panyaden's 12 Wise Habits soup!The Kung Fu Chef invited all his disciples, the Masters of the 12 wise habits for a party before school closes for the holidays. They each brought their ‘wise ingredient’ to make a special soup.

The students guessed the name of the Masters and the meaning of the habit they represented. Those who answered correctly were invited to add the ingredients into the pan for the Kung Fu Chef to fry up for the soup. A fun way of helping us to remember the wise habits we have learnt during the school year. And we did get a real and tasty Thai herbal Nam Bai Toey soup!

More photos on our Facebook page.

 

Visitors from Wat Suan Dok University

children-present-12-wise-habits-to-visiting-monks-1Panyaden School students present school's wise habits for Chiang Mai visitors children-present-12-wise-habits-to-visiting-monks-4

 

Today 29 monks from Wat Suan Dok University, Chiang Mai, visited our school. Our P1-6 students welcomed them with presentations of Panyaden’s 12 wise habits in action in our assembly hall before our school director, Neil Amas, took them on a tour of our green campus. The monks, who come from Vietnam, Laos, Cambodia, Thailand, Myanmar and Bangladesh, praised our students for their good behaviour and politeness. Well done everyone! children-present-12-wise-habits-to-visiting-monks-10 children-present-12-wise-habits-to-visiting-monks-5 children-present-12-wise-habits-to-visiting-monks-8 children-present-12-wise-habits-to-visiting-monks-2 children-present-12-wise-habits-to-visiting-monks-9 children-present-12-wise-habits-to-visiting-monks-7 children-present-12-wise-habits-to-visiting-monks

Above photos of the visit are taken by Ally Taylor. See more here.

Visit by Shan Monks and Nuns

Shan Buddhist monks and nuns visiting Panyaden School in Chiang Mai
Panyaden was honoured to receive by a visit by 25 nuns and monks from the Shan State of Burma, who are on a study tour of Thai Buddhist schools and organisations. School director, Neil Amas, welcomed the group and explained how we integrate Buddhist teachings into our curriculum, including an overview or the 12 Wise Habits. They thanked all our staff for ”thinking, speaking and acting in the right way” to spread the teachings of the Buddha, a great blessing for our school. The group were fascinated and impressed by the school architecture during a tour with Neil around the campus.

 Director Neil Amas welcoming Buddhist monks & nuns at Panyaden School Chiang Mai  Panyaden School Director, Neil Amas taking Shan Buddhist clergy on tour of green school in Chiang Mai

Shan Buddhist clergy visit to Panyaden School, Thai translation

Above photos: taken by Jai.

Panyaden Wise Habit, Sacca

 Telling the truth and keeping our word

Students learn about wise habits at Panyaden School Chiang Mai with the help of our Kung Fu Chef

Sacca (pronounced ‘Satja’), สัจจะ, means ‘being truthful’. This is the wise habit that our favourite Kung Fu Chef shared with Panyaden students today upon his return from a week-long meditation. He and Kru Michel elaborated that practicing this sensible habit involves telling the truth and always keeping our promises.

Singing songs help Panyaden School students remember wise habit, Sacca (Being truthful)

To help us remember this virtue, Kru Tee and Kru Namping led us in a sing-a-long of a catchy new song called ‘Being Truthful’, composed by our very own Kru Noy.

Head teacher with students at bilingual wise habit session, Panyaden School
Head Teacher, Kru Michel with our captains of Sacca
Students practicing Panyaden wise habit kung fu moves with the Chef
The kung fu moves are a fun way help students remember the 12 wise habits

More photos of today’s session by Ally Taylor are on the blog.

A Special Treat For Ven. Ajahn Jayasaro

On 13 July during morning assembly, our children treated Ven. Ajahn Jayasaro to a special presentation of the 12 Wise Habits. Heading this presentation was our favourite Kung Fu Chef who joined us at the assembly hall after the students called out enthusiastically for him. He brought along a video featuring our children acting out various roles to show examples of the wise habits they have been learning. This was a great hit with the students as well as Ven. Ajahn Jayasaro, judging by the smiles, cheers and applause.

Ven. Jayasaro at Panyaden School Chiang Mai Ven. Jayasaro at Panyaden School Chiang Mai: presentation of wise habits by students

Our Captains of Mattanuta and Avingsa then read out letters their Prathom schoolmates sent in to share how they put both wise habits into action these past few weeks. Our kindergarten 3 students put up a wonderfully creative presentation with pictures they had drawn about Mattannuta (knowing the right amount) and questions to the audience like “Do you watch too much TV?” and “Do you eat too many bananas like me?”

Student presentation at Panyaden School Chiang Mai

Soon, everyone was up on their feet doing the 12 wise habits kung fu moves they know so well. The Kung Fu Chef summarised what we have learnt about Mattanuta and Avingsa and invited Ven. Ajahn Jayasaro to share his thoughts on the 2 virtues.

Later in the afternoon, Taan Ajahn Jayasaro met each of our teachers one-on-one to offer guidance and reflection before flying back to Bangkok. We hope he will be able to visit us again soon!

Kindergarenen students and teachers, Panyaden School Chiang Mai
See more photos here.

12 Wise Habits

Mattannuta

By Neil Amas, Panyaden School Director

We are currently practicing mattannuta (pronounced ma-tan-yoo-ta), or knowing the right amount with our students. Here is some further information on mattannuta that you may find useful.

How do we know the right amount? What is too much and what is too little? Whatever we do, however we spend out life, whatever goals we set ourselves, we need to consider the right amount of material and non-material things that we need, to assess what is enough, not to be over demanding. Essentially, mattannuta is about achieving ‘balance’ in life. It is a virtue that helps us to understand the cravings and aversions created by our mind, and that understanding in turn increases the peaceful moments we experience.

The Buddha taught that the middle path should be followed by both body and mind. It is a path of neither sensory indulgence nor extreme austerity, but rather one of moderation and balance. This does not only refer to specific actions or thoughts in isolation, for example consuming the right amount of food, but also to achieving the right balance between all the different things we do each day and throughout our lives.

To illustrate this point, Phra Bhramagunabhorn refers to the importance of balancing the indriya, or five spiritual faculties: conviction (saddha), perseverance (viriya), mindfulness (sati), concentration (samadhi) and wisdom (panya). For example if your conviction or faith is very strong but you do not use your wisdom, you will become gullible, a person that follows without question. Conversely, if you have high intelligence but little faith, you will become skeptical, unable to look inside yourself for the truth. Or if your perseverance is too strong and your concentration is weak, you are likely to become agitated and stressed. Too much concentration and insufficient perseverance, on the other hand, may lead to idleness. Strong mindfulness (sati), however, is needed if we are to find the right balance between these, and to control our actions and thoughts more broadly.

In today’s world, we can see that teaching the new generation how to consume the right amount is very important. Natural resources are stretched and we are experiencing increasing environmental degradation. Understanding mattannuta, therefore, is vital for our students as they grow up and shape the future of our society and our world. As Venerable Ajahn Jayasaro writes in “Twelve ways to become a happy person”, if we think more is better simply in order to make our lives more comfortable, we will see that we end up ust wanting more and more and can never be satisfied. As parents and teachers we need to educate our students to use their wisdom to find the mattannuta point for themselves. Whether eating, sleeping, studying, playing, using the computer or talking, everything has to be the right amount. This does not mean simply dictating the rules to children, but rather helping them see what happens if you sleep too much – you get up and feel grumpy and irritable – or not enough – your brain cannot function properly and you feel drowsy and unable to concentrate. Or what happens when you eat too much – you get stomach ache – and so on. We should ask ourselves and our children how much sleep we think we should have, how much food we should eat.

Ajahn Jayasaro suggests that a family who practices mattannuta is one that is able to make agreement points between parents and children. This means deciding how long we think children should play on the computer, for example, but also respecting our child’s ability to think for him or herself and come to a mutual agreement on the right amount of time. When the time has passed, we can then remind our child of the agreement.

Mattannuta is, therefore, a vitally important wise habit to teach our children, but also to practice ourselves if we are to find true balance in our lives.

The Old Millionaire: a story about Mattannuta

Once upon a time, there was an old Indian millionaire who wished to become a monk but could not figure out what to do with all his riches. He had no children and no close family or relatives to give his wealth to before becoming a monk.

After some thought, he had an idea and he announced it all his friends. “I will travel around the country wearing simple clothing for a year. I will go to every province, every district and every corner of India until I find the poorest man in the country and give all my riches to him.”

After that, he disappeared for one whole year. When he came back he gathered all his friends together to tell them his news. One of the friends asked, “So, did you find the poorest person in India? Who is he? Which province is he from?”

The millionaire replied, “I have made the decision to give all my treasures to the King.”

Another friend cried, “That wasn’t your initial intention! You said you would give all your wealth to the poorest man in India. Why all of a sudden are you going to give it all to the richest man, the King? Why did you change your mind?”

The millionaire responded, ” No, no, no, I did not change my mind. But when I was traveling around the country, some days I met poor farmers who live very small, shabby huts in the middle of rice fields. They invited me to stay overnight with them and gave me the best hospitality they could offer. They had no money but they were kind, helping each other, respecting each other and they had enough to live happily. Therefore, I conclude that these people are definitely not the poor ones.

“My experiences have made me ask myself, how can we determine richness and poorness? I have been reminded time and time again that the poorest man is the man who never appreciates nor is satisfied with what he has. He feels lacking in everything. He wants this, he wants that, he wants more of this and does not have enough of that. So, I have found that those types of people are the poorest ones!

“And this makes me think of one person, and that is the King. He who still collects taxes and increases the rates every year, who declares wars on other countries in order to conquer more land. And that’s why I think the King is the poorest man in India because he does not know the word “Enough!!”