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How to Deal With Your Teenager

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How to Deal With Your Teenager

by Kru Dokmai, Head Teachers (Thai)

 

I’d like to share what I read about how to deal with teenagers. As many of you know I have 2 children. They are 11 and 6 years old. For the older girl, I imagine it will be easy to deal with her when she is an adult, but it’s not easy at this age (11-12 years old). The way I treated her before doesn’t work anymore!

This article helped me to understand teenagers more, and is helping me learn how to deal with my own pre-teen. As your kids go into their teen years, many things will begin to change. To get along and help your teen develop in a positive direction, you’ll need to change your expectations and develop empathy, all the while establishing boundaries.

Creating a safe, supportive, structured, and loving environment is as important for you as it is for your teen.


Adjusting to Their Independence

1. Treat them like a teen, not a child or adult. Your teen is not a small child anymore, so it’s important to adjust your expectations and not treat them like a child. However, teens are not quite adults and cannot be held responsible as an adult. The teenage brain is in the middle of a critical stage of development, and teens need you to help them through this part of their lives.

2. Be flexible with their freedoms. If your teen is making an effort and showing their responsibility, allow more freedom. If they are making bad choices, be more restrictive. Ultimately, show them that their behavior gives them freedom or restrictions and their own choices determine their outcomes.

3. Focus on trust, not suspicion. It’s true that teens can get into a lot of trouble, but don’t focus your attention on the bad things they’ve done in the past or the risks they might face. If you think your teen may be up to something, have them explain it to you fully. Ask questions instead of jumping to conclusions.

Enforcing rules and consequences

1. Stay calm. If you are angry, take a moment and gather yourself. Take a few deep breaths or walk away and come back when you’re calmer. This way, you’re more likely to give reasonable consequences.

2. Establish boundaries and stick to them. The teen should know what is expected of them. Teens will want to push the boundaries, so remain firm when you set a limit. Discuss these boundaries with your teen, and let them have a say in how they work. They are more likely to follow rules that they helped establish. Put boundaries and rules in writing so that there’s no confusion as to what’s expected of your teen.

3. Enforce consequences. Learning to navigate problem behaviors can be tricky. If you’re too lenient, your teen may think they have no limits or you don’t take their behavior seriously. However, if you’re too strict, your teen may grow to resent you or they may rebel. When your teen breaks a rule, calmly tell them what they did and why they are in trouble. When deciding on a consequence, make sure it’s proportional to the behavior and not given out of anger.

4. Be reasonable. One of the best ways to be reasonable is to listen to your teen’s perspective. When they’re in trouble, ask them what a reasonable consequence might be. Get their input and consider their perspective.

5. Handle conflicts. Sometimes, your teens may want to prove themselves to you or test their independence in your home. Refuse to fight with them. You can avoid major conflicts by monitoring your own reactions to your teen, even if you think they’re being outrageous.

6. Use effective communication. Keep a path of open communication between you whenever possible so they can ask questions, admit mistakes, and reach out when they need help. Instead of jumping to conclusions about your teen’s behavior, ask questions.

Showing Your Love


1. Have fun together. Make sure you find time to enjoy your teen.

2. Develop empathy. Your teen is looking for someone to understand what they’re going through. They generally don’t need you to fix their problems for them (they’ll figure that out for themselves), but they need someone who’ll listen to and empathize with them.

3. Honor and respect your teen. Just as you want your teen to treat you with respect, treat them with respect as well. Constantly yelling at a child can damage their emotions and cause them to feel insecure.

4. Support your teen’s interests. Get them involved in the activities they enjoy and show that you support them. This shows that you care and are invested in their skills and happiness.

5. Open your home to your teenager’s friends. Be a good sport by opening your own home to them. Create a space where they can hang out by themselves but you can casually walk through.

6. Be available to them. Show your love to your teen by being there for them. Not all teens want to talk with their parents, but let them know you’re willing to listen.

Enjoy quality time with your teenager!

Source: The article was co-authored by Paul Chernyak, LPC. Paul Chernyak is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago. He graduated from the American School of Professional Psychology in 2011.

 

Best British Schools in Asia & Best International School Thailand

We are pleased to announce that Panyaden International School has been selected by World Schools and listed as one of The Best British Schools in Asia as well as The Best International School in Thailand.

Our praise and congratulations go to Panyaden teachers and staff for their constant dedication.

We also want to thank our parents and students for their trust, continuous support and contribution to the Panyaden community.

 

 

Panyaden’s success is the product of teamwork.

Thank you all.

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Best International Schools in Thailand

 

The Best British Schools in Asia

 

Tea with Teachers: Answers to Parents’ Questions

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Here are answers to the questions parents asked during our recent Tea with Teachers event at Panyaden.

1. Can you explain your teaching methods?
In all classes, we aim to boost students’ independence and their sense of responsibility for their own learning. Key elements that we put in place include the following:

  • We keep lecture-style lessons to a minimum. Teachers keep instructions and explanations to 5-15 minutes maximum, then the focus turns to learning in small groups and or as individuals.
  • We involve students in identifying success criteria for the tasks at hand. Having a clear picture of the goal helps them self-monitor their progress.
  • We start the year with a unit about how the brain works and teach them how to learn more efficiently. Learning how to learn!
  • We accept mistakes and teach students ways to learn from them.
  • We describe their learning and behavior in non-judgmental words, leading them to assess themselves instead on relying on us.
  • We present the same information in different ways so students with different learning needs can access it reach the same goal.

2. Will K2 students learn combined vowel sounds in Thai language? (K2 parent)
In Kindergarten 2 Thai, children will be encouraged to read aloud a wide range of stories and listen to poems which they will start to recite by heart. They will become confident in being able to identify letters and will strengthen their learning of phonological awareness. They will be exposed to a range of daily sight words containing the simple and combined vowel sounds, and will practise forming individual Thai letters.

ในวิชาภาษาไทยสำหรับระดับชั้นอนุบาล 2 นักเรียนจะได้รับการส่งเสริมการอ่านหนังสือและนิทานที่หลากหลาย และได้ฟังบทกลอน บทกวีที่เหมาะสมตามวัย เพื่อพัฒนาทักษะด้านภาษาจากภายในอย่างเป็นธรรมชาติ
นักเรียนจะได้เรียนรู้เกี่ยวกับพยัญชนะไทยและพัฒนาความมั่นใจในการจำแนกเสียงของคำจากเสียงพยัญชนะ นอกจากนั้น นักเรียนจะได้เริ่มเรียนรู้และคุ้นเคยกับคำศัพท์ประจำวันที่ประสมด้วยสระอย่างง่ายเพื่อพัฒนาการเรียนรู้การสะกดคำในระดับสูงต่อไป

3. How can foreign parents help their kids to learn Thai?
Learning a second language yourself is a powerful way to model the importance of that second language but, maybe even more importantly, it’s a way to show your child that learning is a lifelong endeavour and that taking risks and doing something difficult is actually enjoyable! However, you don’t have to master a second language to help your child. Here are a few suggestions:

  • Provide learning materials that match your child’s interests: books, games, music, etc.
  • Organise activities where your child will have to use his second language: horse riding, swimming lessons, a visit to a theme park, etc.
  • Invite a neighbour or a friend who speaks the targeted language.
  • Show your personal interest in the language.
  • Read to your child in your first language but find someone to read to her in her second language or use audio books.

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4. Can the school increase the length of English learning time? (Year 2 parent)
Children in Year 1-7 have 5 hours of focused English language time each week but are also learning and practising English at other times, such as during integrated learning (maths, science, history, geography) and performing arts, so there are many more hours of English per week than in the English language lesson. As a bilingual school, we put equal emphasis on English and Thai.

5. How can we as parents support at home?
For Year 1-7 we will be sending activities home that aim to involve parents. On top of that, we suggest that parents:

  • Encourage reading by reading to your children every day, making sure that they see you reading, and limiting screen time.
  • Arrange a quiet, comfortable space for children to read or do homework and avoid distractions – like the TV being on – during that time.
  • Come to our parent-teacher workshops later this term where we will share ideas about our approaches to learning and behaviour. We will notify you of dates in advance.
  • Ask your children to explain the Wise Habits each time we send information about them home and look for opportunities to reflect upon them with our child.

6. Can we have access to the curriculum?
Yes, the UK curriculum is publically available and can be viewed here: Early Years Primary Years 1-7

Information about the The International Primary Curriculum – which is the tool we use to organise the different subjects into themes and units can be viewed here: IPC

7. Can we see the Thai language curriculum for Year 5?
Yes, we have the Thai curriculum for every grade at school as a PDF file. Any parents who would like to get a copy, please write to Kru Dokmai at dokmai@panyaden.ac.th.

ทางโรงเรียนมีหลักสูตรภาษาไทยสำหรับทุกระดับชั้นในไฟล์เอกสาร หากผู้ปกครองท่านใดต้องการสำเนา สามารถติดต่อครูดอกไม้ได้ตามอีเมลนี้ dokmai@panyaden.ac.th.

8. Can we have an overview of the following 3-4 months, upcoming festivities, field trips?
Main school events are available from the school’s calendar. We will also be sending home a summary of the term’s learning activities each term. This will be done soon.

9. What is the main language of communication among children?
Teachers only speak their first language with students. We expect all students to communicate with teachers in the teacher’s first language. Children choose the language they will use among themselves and we hear a lot of switching between Thai and English with English tending to dominate with the older students. To fully support Thai and English we monitor and adjust, in every group, the number of speakers who don’t have Thai or English as a first language.