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Secondary Building Blessing, Dhamma Talk, and One-Day Meditation Retreat

We were honoured to have Venerable Phraraja Bajaramanit (Ajahn Jayasaro) and Ajahn Jiew preside over the Blessing Ceremony for Panyaden’s Secondary Building on Thursday 5th September 2019. Later in the evening, Ajahn Jayasaro shared his wisdom at the Dhamma Talk held at the Assembly Hall. 
Highlights of his teaching include:
  • Having different views should not stop us from respecting and befriending others.
  • We should not hold onto our views too tightly but instead be open to hearing the reasons others think differently and change our mind if appropriate.
  • It is helpful to remember the times we were convinced we were right about something only to find out later that we were wrong.
  • A mind trained in meditation is more skilful at seeing emotions for what they are and saves us from identifying with them and creating suffering for ourselves. 
Respectively, Ajahn Jiew then lead a One-Day Meditation Retreat on Saturday 7th September 2019.
Some key observations include:
  • We all know that sooner or later we will have to face pain. Working on peacefully coexisting with some pain during meditation can be a good practice.
  • Meditation does not always have to be about observing the breath. We can sometimes meditate about the particular topic and this can bring clarity in the mind. 
  • Walking meditation can be particularly efficient when contemplating an idea or an issue.
  • While walking meditation done at a very slow pace can help strengthen our focus, we can benefit a lot from doing walking meditation at a normal pace because we can then be better equipped to use it on a daily basis.
We, at Panyaden are ever grateful for their kind support and wise teachings, and our upmost thanks to all the students, teachers, staff, support team and participants in making the three day event a blissful experience.
 

How to Deal With Your Teenager

Live and Learn
How to Deal With Your Teenager

by Kru Dokmai, Head Teachers (Thai)

 

I’d like to share what I read about how to deal with teenagers. As many of you know I have 2 children. They are 11 and 6 years old. For the older girl, I imagine it will be easy to deal with her when she is an adult, but it’s not easy at this age (11-12 years old). The way I treated her before doesn’t work anymore!

This article helped me to understand teenagers more, and is helping me learn how to deal with my own pre-teen. As your kids go into their teen years, many things will begin to change. To get along and help your teen develop in a positive direction, you’ll need to change your expectations and develop empathy, all the while establishing boundaries.

Creating a safe, supportive, structured, and loving environment is as important for you as it is for your teen.


Adjusting to Their Independence

1. Treat them like a teen, not a child or adult. Your teen is not a small child anymore, so it’s important to adjust your expectations and not treat them like a child. However, teens are not quite adults and cannot be held responsible as an adult. The teenage brain is in the middle of a critical stage of development, and teens need you to help them through this part of their lives.

2. Be flexible with their freedoms. If your teen is making an effort and showing their responsibility, allow more freedom. If they are making bad choices, be more restrictive. Ultimately, show them that their behavior gives them freedom or restrictions and their own choices determine their outcomes.

3. Focus on trust, not suspicion. It’s true that teens can get into a lot of trouble, but don’t focus your attention on the bad things they’ve done in the past or the risks they might face. If you think your teen may be up to something, have them explain it to you fully. Ask questions instead of jumping to conclusions.

Enforcing rules and consequences

1. Stay calm. If you are angry, take a moment and gather yourself. Take a few deep breaths or walk away and come back when you’re calmer. This way, you’re more likely to give reasonable consequences.

2. Establish boundaries and stick to them. The teen should know what is expected of them. Teens will want to push the boundaries, so remain firm when you set a limit. Discuss these boundaries with your teen, and let them have a say in how they work. They are more likely to follow rules that they helped establish. Put boundaries and rules in writing so that there’s no confusion as to what’s expected of your teen.

3. Enforce consequences. Learning to navigate problem behaviors can be tricky. If you’re too lenient, your teen may think they have no limits or you don’t take their behavior seriously. However, if you’re too strict, your teen may grow to resent you or they may rebel. When your teen breaks a rule, calmly tell them what they did and why they are in trouble. When deciding on a consequence, make sure it’s proportional to the behavior and not given out of anger.

4. Be reasonable. One of the best ways to be reasonable is to listen to your teen’s perspective. When they’re in trouble, ask them what a reasonable consequence might be. Get their input and consider their perspective.

5. Handle conflicts. Sometimes, your teens may want to prove themselves to you or test their independence in your home. Refuse to fight with them. You can avoid major conflicts by monitoring your own reactions to your teen, even if you think they’re being outrageous.

6. Use effective communication. Keep a path of open communication between you whenever possible so they can ask questions, admit mistakes, and reach out when they need help. Instead of jumping to conclusions about your teen’s behavior, ask questions.

Showing Your Love


1. Have fun together. Make sure you find time to enjoy your teen.

2. Develop empathy. Your teen is looking for someone to understand what they’re going through. They generally don’t need you to fix their problems for them (they’ll figure that out for themselves), but they need someone who’ll listen to and empathize with them.

3. Honor and respect your teen. Just as you want your teen to treat you with respect, treat them with respect as well. Constantly yelling at a child can damage their emotions and cause them to feel insecure.

4. Support your teen’s interests. Get them involved in the activities they enjoy and show that you support them. This shows that you care and are invested in their skills and happiness.

5. Open your home to your teenager’s friends. Be a good sport by opening your own home to them. Create a space where they can hang out by themselves but you can casually walk through.

6. Be available to them. Show your love to your teen by being there for them. Not all teens want to talk with their parents, but let them know you’re willing to listen.

Enjoy quality time with your teenager!

Source: The article was co-authored by Paul Chernyak, LPC. Paul Chernyak is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago. He graduated from the American School of Professional Psychology in 2011.

 

Panyaden to support Local Fire Watch Team

Panyaden representatives recently visited the Local Forest Fire Watch Team to express our gratitude for their hard work

.As a member of the Namprae community, Panyaden would like to support our local villagers who managed to control the fires and maintain 24-hour monitoring during the Chiang Mai burning season. This programme parallels our efforts to prepare our students to develop a green mindset and become leaders in initiatives aimed at preserving our natural resources.

Dhamma Talk by Venerable Ajahn Amaro at Panyaden

Venerable Ajahn Amaro will be giving a public Dhamma Talk (in Eng and Thai) at our Assembly Hall.
All Panyaden community and guests are warmly welcome to join us.

Please call 080 078 5115 or send us a message for registration.

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Upcoming Panyaden Blossom Day 2018

Panyaden Blossom Day 2018 preschool dress rehearsal

Panyaden Blossom Day 2018 celebrations

Panyaden Blossom Day 2018 celebrations is a wonderful annual send-off for the end of our school’s academic year. Our school community comes together on Thursday, 28 June 2018, to celebrate the year’s learning in a vibrant showcase of song, dance and drama performances by our students who have been working really hard throughout the year. Join us for the show between 8.30am-12pm, followed by our ever-popular Blossom Market from 12pm-2pm. All net proceeds from the Market will go to Mae Mae School in Chiang Dao.

To ease traffic congestion, we have prepared a temporary car park this Thursday, which will be available from 8am onwards. It will be located on the land to the left of the entrance road to school. There will be signs to show you where to park. See you here at Panyaden!

Panyaden Year 7 Graduation Trip

Panyaden Year 7 Graduation Trip Day 1
Year 7 Graduation Trip

Celebrating Learning at Panyaden

Our annual Year 7 graduation trip is an opportunity to practise and celebrate all that the students have learned from their time at Panyaden. They started at a mountain village where they learned local wisdom from Karen locals who have maintained a traditional, self-sufficient lifestyle in spite of pressure to conform to mainstream agricultural methods, then moved on to a poor, rural school where they taught English and cooked with the children and finished up kayaking at Mae Ngat reservoir.

DAY 1: Huai Hin Lad Nai, a Karen village in Chiang Rai. The village chief taught us about the curative properties of local plants. We learned how to identify wild Assam tea plants and spent the afternoon exploring the hill side, harvesting tea tips. The chief taught us how to roast the tea leaves over a bamboo fire then cure them in the sunshine. We also learned about ‘rotational farming’, where villagers integrate seasonal crops within the wild forest landscape and how the village harvests wild honey and makes honey-infused soap which are sold at the market.

WE LEARNED ABOUT: nature, traditional lifestyles, self-sufficiency, practical life skills, perseverance, creative thinking, independence, responsibility, problem-solving, teamwork.

Panyaden Year 7 Graduation Trip Day 2 - Teaching English Panyaden Year 7 Graduation Trip Day 3 - building rock sculptures Panyaden Year 7 Graduation Trip Day 3 - at Mae Ngat

Day 2: Mae Mae, a small hillside village in Chiang Dao. We visited Mae Mae school, a boarding school for mainly orphaned primary age students from nearby hill villages. Students taught an English lesson to the students, then the two schools worked together to prepare a pancake breakfast for each other and played dodgeball in the playground with balls Panyaden brought and donated to the school. We also explored the local river.

Day 3: Mae Ngat reservoir. We did team-building activities, kayaked on the reservoir, and had fun!

WE LEARNED ABOUT: community service, kindness and empathy, teaching, presentation skills, practical life skills, responsibility, independence, how to kayak, water safety, caring for each other, teamwork.

See photos here:
Y7 Graduation Trip Day 1
Panyaden Y7 Graduation Trip 2

Skillful Communication Talk

Skillful Communication - Panyaden dhamma talk poster june 2018

Panyaden Dhamma Talk on ‘Skillful Communication’

Panyaden’s Spiritual Advisor, the British-born forest monk, Venerable Ajahn Jayasaro will be giving a public Dhamma Talk (in Eng and Thai) at our Assembly Hall on Tuesday, June 5, 4pm to 5pm. Venerable Jayasaro will speak on the topic, ‘Skillful Communication’. All are warmly welcome to join us! Please call 080 078 5115 for more information or email us. See our Dhamma Talk event on Facebook and our school website Dhamma Talk by Ven. Ajahn Jayasaro event.

Panyaden Y6 Ancient Cultures

Panyaden Y6 ancient cultures field trip: learning about Islam

Y6 field trip to learn about ancient cultures

As part of their study of the Islamic Empire and other ancient cultures, Panyaden Year 6 (Y6) students went on a field trip to visit the ruins at Wiang Kum Kang and a Chiang Mai mosque so they could learn first hand about the proper etiquette and purpose of a mosque. As chance would have it, there happened to be a group of Malaysian tourists at the ruins who were delighted to answer their questions about Islamic beliefs and history!

Panyaden Year 6 learn aboutIslam and other ancient cultures Panyaden Y6 Ancient Cultures Field Trip: talking about Islam with visitors

Photos of Panyaden Y6 field trip on the School Blog.

CNN features Panyaden

Panyaden International School featured on CNN

CNN features Panyaden in news report

Panyaden’s eco-design school is featured in a new report by CNN. As exemplified by the school’s rammed earth walls and bamboo architecture, the reprisal of old — sometimes ancient — building materials and techniques could be crucial for future sustainability, the report says. The global production of cement is disastrous for our biosphere – it is responsible for approximately 5% of global man-made CO2 emissions, according to the World Business Council for Sustainable Development – leading to a revival in natural, locally-sourced materials. We are delighted that our school is being held up as a leader in new, eco-friendly design. See the CNN slideshow showcasing Panyaden and read  the article here.

Parent Volunteers Wanted

Volunteer parent reading to students on Reading Day at Panyaden

Parent Volunteers for Reading Day

Share​ your love of reading! We need parent volunteers to read your favourite books to our students on Panyaden’s Reading Day on 1 May, 2018. We are looking for storytellers in both English and Thai language.

If you would like to read a story of your choice on Reading Day, please sign your name on the Reading Day form and indicate the time slot that you are available and the class you would prefer. The sign-up sheets will be posted by the school gate.

Reading to Nursery to Kindergarten 2 will take place from 10:20 – 11:20, while reading to groups of Year 1—7 students will take place from 11:20 – 12:20.

You can sign up for either or both. Your stories should be anywhere from 10 – 20 minutes long, but shorter is better for the younger ones. You are welcome to sing a song, read a story, perform reader’s theatre, or any other way to express your love of literature.

Poetry Evening

We will be holding our Reading Day combined with Poetry Evening, which will commence on the same day at 4pm.  We have many fun reading activities planned for the day, and will need your help for a few of them. You should have received an invitation to Poetry Evening in your child’s communication book. If you and/or your child are planning to attend and read a poem, please complete the form and return it in your child’s communication book no later than this Friday April 27 so we can finalise numbers for the poetry presentations, seating and refreshments. Thank you!