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How to Deal With Your Teenager

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How to Deal With Your Teenager

by Kru Dokmai, Head Teachers (Thai)

 

I’d like to share what I read about how to deal with teenagers. As many of you know I have 2 children. They are 11 and 6 years old. For the older girl, I imagine it will be easy to deal with her when she is an adult, but it’s not easy at this age (11-12 years old). The way I treated her before doesn’t work anymore!

This article helped me to understand teenagers more, and is helping me learn how to deal with my own pre-teen. As your kids go into their teen years, many things will begin to change. To get along and help your teen develop in a positive direction, you’ll need to change your expectations and develop empathy, all the while establishing boundaries.

Creating a safe, supportive, structured, and loving environment is as important for you as it is for your teen.


Adjusting to Their Independence

1. Treat them like a teen, not a child or adult. Your teen is not a small child anymore, so it’s important to adjust your expectations and not treat them like a child. However, teens are not quite adults and cannot be held responsible as an adult. The teenage brain is in the middle of a critical stage of development, and teens need you to help them through this part of their lives.

2. Be flexible with their freedoms. If your teen is making an effort and showing their responsibility, allow more freedom. If they are making bad choices, be more restrictive. Ultimately, show them that their behavior gives them freedom or restrictions and their own choices determine their outcomes.

3. Focus on trust, not suspicion. It’s true that teens can get into a lot of trouble, but don’t focus your attention on the bad things they’ve done in the past or the risks they might face. If you think your teen may be up to something, have them explain it to you fully. Ask questions instead of jumping to conclusions.

Enforcing rules and consequences

1. Stay calm. If you are angry, take a moment and gather yourself. Take a few deep breaths or walk away and come back when you’re calmer. This way, you’re more likely to give reasonable consequences.

2. Establish boundaries and stick to them. The teen should know what is expected of them. Teens will want to push the boundaries, so remain firm when you set a limit. Discuss these boundaries with your teen, and let them have a say in how they work. They are more likely to follow rules that they helped establish. Put boundaries and rules in writing so that there’s no confusion as to what’s expected of your teen.

3. Enforce consequences. Learning to navigate problem behaviors can be tricky. If you’re too lenient, your teen may think they have no limits or you don’t take their behavior seriously. However, if you’re too strict, your teen may grow to resent you or they may rebel. When your teen breaks a rule, calmly tell them what they did and why they are in trouble. When deciding on a consequence, make sure it’s proportional to the behavior and not given out of anger.

4. Be reasonable. One of the best ways to be reasonable is to listen to your teen’s perspective. When they’re in trouble, ask them what a reasonable consequence might be. Get their input and consider their perspective.

5. Handle conflicts. Sometimes, your teens may want to prove themselves to you or test their independence in your home. Refuse to fight with them. You can avoid major conflicts by monitoring your own reactions to your teen, even if you think they’re being outrageous.

6. Use effective communication. Keep a path of open communication between you whenever possible so they can ask questions, admit mistakes, and reach out when they need help. Instead of jumping to conclusions about your teen’s behavior, ask questions.

Showing Your Love


1. Have fun together. Make sure you find time to enjoy your teen.

2. Develop empathy. Your teen is looking for someone to understand what they’re going through. They generally don’t need you to fix their problems for them (they’ll figure that out for themselves), but they need someone who’ll listen to and empathize with them.

3. Honor and respect your teen. Just as you want your teen to treat you with respect, treat them with respect as well. Constantly yelling at a child can damage their emotions and cause them to feel insecure.

4. Support your teen’s interests. Get them involved in the activities they enjoy and show that you support them. This shows that you care and are invested in their skills and happiness.

5. Open your home to your teenager’s friends. Be a good sport by opening your own home to them. Create a space where they can hang out by themselves but you can casually walk through.

6. Be available to them. Show your love to your teen by being there for them. Not all teens want to talk with their parents, but let them know you’re willing to listen.

Enjoy quality time with your teenager!

Source: The article was co-authored by Paul Chernyak, LPC. Paul Chernyak is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago. He graduated from the American School of Professional Psychology in 2011.

 

Panyaden Budding Day 1

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Budding Day 1 Celebrations

Budding teachers from Nursery-Year 1

Panyaden Budding Day 1. Students teach parents how to draw, conduct science experiments; solve maths problems and even how to make healthy juices! All part of our Budding Day celebrations on 14 December and a great opportunity for the children to show us highlights of what they have learnt this term, practise their presentation skills and work with as a team. Well done to our students from Nursery, Kindergarten 1 (K1) and Year 1 (Y1) Dragonflies!

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More Panyaden Budding Day 1 photos here on our School Blog image gallery.

Save The Trees!

”I heard that you were cutting down some trees near our school and I was a bit upset because I Iove trees and our school will not be beautiful without them. I know your reasons for doing this, but I want to ask you not to cut all of them down. I hope you think again but if you don’t, you will know that I don’t agree with you.” From Lili, age 10

”I heard you that you are going to put cement around the river….the reason is good but the solution isn’t. There are plenty of other ways to fix it, for example, you could do the opposite of what you’re doing and plant more trees so the soil will get stronger or you could put stones around instead of cement.” From Kyria, age 11

 

Panyaden students met with and wrote letters to an official from the Royal Irrigation Department, Khun Suthisak, to voice their concerns about the cutting down of trees along the canal next to the school. Khun Suthisak explained that the base of the canal will be concreted to reduce soil erosion but most of the large trees on our side will be preserved. We were proud of our students who expressed their concerns for the environment thoughtfully and confidently. We thank Khun Suthisak for listening and patiently answering all of our questions.

 

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Honouring Her Majesty Queen Sirikit

Dance to celebrate Her Majesty Queen Sirikit’s birthday

Panyaden School students perform Thai dance on TV

Panyaden students recently performed a traditional Thai dance at Thai TV 11 (NBT) in Chiang Mai to celebrate Her Majesty Queen Sirikit ‘s birthday this year. The programme will be aired next month August (date/time to be confirmed). Look out for updates here on our blog or on Facebook.

Panyaden Thai Language

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Thai language and traditions came alive today for Panyaden students through dances as well as a play from a section of the epic Ramayana performed by the students themselves. They also painted the colourful backdrops with the help of their teachers. Thank you all for the lovely performances!

There was also storytelling in Thai using handmade puppets and props and fun alphabet games. Students also had a chance to make and sample delicious desserts, play traditional Thai games and make handicrafts.

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Lots more more photos here on the blog.

Panyaden School Blossom Day

Panyaden students put up a delightful show

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Making props, painting backdrops, diligently practicing their lines and movement over and over again, Panyaden students from Nursery all the way to Prathom 6, have been hard at work these past 2 weeks. Ladies and gentlemen, our school presents our Blossom Day show, our annual end-of-term celebration of our children’s learning throughout the 2012-3 school year.

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DSCF2735Panyaden School Director, Neil Amas opened the show with an introduction about how proud we are of our students’ efforts. Each class has chosen its own showcase based on its students’ interests. Our teachers have sometimes motivated our students to take on tasks and roles they were not totally confident with to help them overcome their fears and try something new.

What a show they put up! An eco-fashion show displaying interesting clothes Prathom students made from recycling everyday materials, the songs and Thai dances, the moving play based on Shel Silverstein’s book, The Giving Tree, the wonderful costumes and message about caring for the environment as well as the detail in planning the scale of the planets (Space Adventure) and more deserved the hearty applause that the audience of parents, friends, teachers and schoolmates gave to each performance. Then of course, there was the bustling Blossom Market where students sold their handicraft, food, books and even vegetables they grew at school to raise funds for a charity in Chiang Mai. Thank you for all your hard work and enthusiasm!

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See more photos taken by Ally Taylor on our blog:
Rehearsals –
https://www.panyaden.ac.th/march-2013/blossom-day-rehearsals-morning/
https://www.panyaden.ac.th/march-2013/blossom-day-rehearsals-afternoon/

Today’s show –
https://www.panyaden.ac.th/march-2013/blossom-day-2013/#
https://www.panyaden.ac.th/march-2013/graduation-blossom-market/

See also photos by Steve Yarnold on Chiang Mai magazine, CityNow –
https://www.city-now.com/comment.php?cid=452413&lang=English&page=1 – rank452413

Caring For Our Environment

Doing our part in helping the environment

IMG_9228 Panyaden School student planting tree in Chiang Mai

Apart from daily recycling and reducing practices at school, Panyaden students also had another opportunity to do their bit for the environment by planting trees during their field trip to Pur Farm on Friday. The farm in Chiang Mai is a locally-run conservation and reforestation programme supported by an international group, PurProjet.

Our Prathom students planted more than 30 teak and gmelina trees indigenous to primary and secondary forests in North Thailand. Their efforts will help towards the long-term regeneration of these forests.

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Before the tree planting, our students went on an informative tour to learn about the project’s organic farming run with the help of community volunteers who encourage and teach farmers in the area to adopt environmentally-friendly and sustainable ways of growing vegetables and fruit.

More photos on the blog here.

Letters to Kung Fu Chef

Panyaden students write letters to the Kung Fu Chef
on how they put each week’s wise habit into practice at school

ในทุกๆสัปดาห์ นักเรียนเขียนจดหมายถึงกังฟูเชฟเพื่อเล่าและแบ่งปันสิ่งที่ได้เรียนรู้และได้ปฏิบัติ
ในเรื่องคุณลักษณะอันพึงประสงค์ทั้ง 12 ประการ

Reading student letters on wise habits, Panyaden School Chiang Mai

Click on each image below for larger picture.

Mattannuta (มัตตัญญุตา, knowing the right amount)

Mattannuta (มัตตัญญุตา, knowing the right amount)

 

 

Khanti (ขันติ, being patient and tolerant)

Sacca (สัจจะ, being truthful)

Awihingsa (อวิหิงสา, not harming)

Viriya (วิริยะ, persevering)