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How to Deal With Your Teenager

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How to Deal With Your Teenager

by Kru Dokmai, Head Teachers (Thai)

 

I’d like to share what I read about how to deal with teenagers. As many of you know I have 2 children. They are 11 and 6 years old. For the older girl, I imagine it will be easy to deal with her when she is an adult, but it’s not easy at this age (11-12 years old). The way I treated her before doesn’t work anymore!

This article helped me to understand teenagers more, and is helping me learn how to deal with my own pre-teen. As your kids go into their teen years, many things will begin to change. To get along and help your teen develop in a positive direction, you’ll need to change your expectations and develop empathy, all the while establishing boundaries.

Creating a safe, supportive, structured, and loving environment is as important for you as it is for your teen.


Adjusting to Their Independence

1. Treat them like a teen, not a child or adult. Your teen is not a small child anymore, so it’s important to adjust your expectations and not treat them like a child. However, teens are not quite adults and cannot be held responsible as an adult. The teenage brain is in the middle of a critical stage of development, and teens need you to help them through this part of their lives.

2. Be flexible with their freedoms. If your teen is making an effort and showing their responsibility, allow more freedom. If they are making bad choices, be more restrictive. Ultimately, show them that their behavior gives them freedom or restrictions and their own choices determine their outcomes.

3. Focus on trust, not suspicion. It’s true that teens can get into a lot of trouble, but don’t focus your attention on the bad things they’ve done in the past or the risks they might face. If you think your teen may be up to something, have them explain it to you fully. Ask questions instead of jumping to conclusions.

Enforcing rules and consequences

1. Stay calm. If you are angry, take a moment and gather yourself. Take a few deep breaths or walk away and come back when you’re calmer. This way, you’re more likely to give reasonable consequences.

2. Establish boundaries and stick to them. The teen should know what is expected of them. Teens will want to push the boundaries, so remain firm when you set a limit. Discuss these boundaries with your teen, and let them have a say in how they work. They are more likely to follow rules that they helped establish. Put boundaries and rules in writing so that there’s no confusion as to what’s expected of your teen.

3. Enforce consequences. Learning to navigate problem behaviors can be tricky. If you’re too lenient, your teen may think they have no limits or you don’t take their behavior seriously. However, if you’re too strict, your teen may grow to resent you or they may rebel. When your teen breaks a rule, calmly tell them what they did and why they are in trouble. When deciding on a consequence, make sure it’s proportional to the behavior and not given out of anger.

4. Be reasonable. One of the best ways to be reasonable is to listen to your teen’s perspective. When they’re in trouble, ask them what a reasonable consequence might be. Get their input and consider their perspective.

5. Handle conflicts. Sometimes, your teens may want to prove themselves to you or test their independence in your home. Refuse to fight with them. You can avoid major conflicts by monitoring your own reactions to your teen, even if you think they’re being outrageous.

6. Use effective communication. Keep a path of open communication between you whenever possible so they can ask questions, admit mistakes, and reach out when they need help. Instead of jumping to conclusions about your teen’s behavior, ask questions.

Showing Your Love


1. Have fun together. Make sure you find time to enjoy your teen.

2. Develop empathy. Your teen is looking for someone to understand what they’re going through. They generally don’t need you to fix their problems for them (they’ll figure that out for themselves), but they need someone who’ll listen to and empathize with them.

3. Honor and respect your teen. Just as you want your teen to treat you with respect, treat them with respect as well. Constantly yelling at a child can damage their emotions and cause them to feel insecure.

4. Support your teen’s interests. Get them involved in the activities they enjoy and show that you support them. This shows that you care and are invested in their skills and happiness.

5. Open your home to your teenager’s friends. Be a good sport by opening your own home to them. Create a space where they can hang out by themselves but you can casually walk through.

6. Be available to them. Show your love to your teen by being there for them. Not all teens want to talk with their parents, but let them know you’re willing to listen.

Enjoy quality time with your teenager!

Source: The article was co-authored by Paul Chernyak, LPC. Paul Chernyak is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago. He graduated from the American School of Professional Psychology in 2011.

 

Midterm Break Message

Let Them Do Nothing!

by Kru Michel, Primary School Principal

With a school break approaching, kids are often looking forward to lots of computer or TV time while parents start scheduling activities and fill up the schedule so no one gets bored. Nothing wrong with joining a club or playing video games but there is one important activity that is usually overlooked: doing nothing!

You might have heard that “The Devil finds work for idle hands”. That could be why we think we should keep our kids busy at all times. However, research shows that creativity and inner peace are more likely to arise during free exploration play. Daydreaming is apparently also linked to better emotional control and the ability to deal with frustration. Read more

Unfortunately, in wanting to make sure our children are not bored, we overschedule their time or give in to their request to have more computer or TV time.

“Middle-class children in America are so overscheduled that they have almost no ‘nothing time.’ They have no time to call on their own resources and be creative. Creativity is making something out of nothing, and it takes time for that to happen,” says Diane Ehrensaft, Ph.D., a developmental and clinical psychologist and professor at The Wright Institute in Berkeley, California. Read more

Signs that a child is too busy:

    1. Sleep is disturbed.
    1. Your child has emotional outbursts or displays frustration and anxiety.
    1. He misses spending time with parents, family and friends.
    1. She cheers when a lesson or practice is cancelled.
    1. Performance at school declines. Click to Read more

So, when school is out, provide your child with ample time to be “bored”, time where no computer, tv or organised activities are available, time where they will have to figure out what to do and therefore start enjoying simple activities they would not get to enjoy otherwise.

Also, I wish you have a great vacation with a lot of new experiences.

Looking forward to seeing you again on 17th April!

 

Best British Schools in Asia & Best International School Thailand

We are pleased to announce that Panyaden International School has been selected by World Schools and listed as one of The Best British Schools in Asia as well as The Best International School in Thailand.

Our praise and congratulations go to Panyaden teachers and staff for their constant dedication.

We also want to thank our parents and students for their trust, continuous support and contribution to the Panyaden community.

 

 

Panyaden’s success is the product of teamwork.

Thank you all.

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Best International Schools in Thailand

 

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Panyaden Pre-school Show

Panyaden nursery children put up a show for their parents to celebrate their learning ANimal mask dance by Panyaden International School pre-schoolers Panyaden's pre-schoolers in their butterfly costumes Penguin and birds paper art by Panyaden International School pre-schoolers

Panyaden’s pre-schoolers put up an entertaining show for teachers, parents and friends at the end of their study unit on well-being and animals. Lots of fun art, dioramas of African animals in their habitat, paper masks of animal faces, songs, butterfly costumes and dances. A lovely way to celebrate learning!

Panyaden pre-schoolers in bird costumes admiring an animal art art exhibition Parents and students admiring paintings by Panyaden's pre-school students Diorama of African animals by Panyaden International School pre-school students

Lots more photos here on Panyaden Pre-school Show image gallery!

Panyaden Preschool Budding Day

Preschool students perform a song for their parents on Panyaden's Budding Day

Panyaden’s preschoolers celebrate their learning

We love to learn! At Budding Day, our preschool end-of-term celebration of learning, nursery and kindergarten students show their parents what they have learned in class this term.  The science (and art) of making coloured ice, playing fun tunes on little xylophones, drawing, learning new life skills, counting and much more.
 

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More Panyaden Preschool Budding Day photos.

Malaysian Students Visit Panyaden

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Bachelor of Education students from Taylor’s University in Kuala Lumpur visit Panyaden to learn about our green programme, teaching methods and how the architecture and environment facilitate student learning.

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Panyaden Grade 3 Student Field Trip

P3 students learned about various agriculture techniques, plants and handicrafts native to Northern Thailand on their field trip to Northern Study in Mae Rim.
Prathom 3 students learned about various agriculture techniques, plants and handicrafts native to Northern Thailand on their field trip to Northern Study in Mae Rim. They found out about the King’s efforts to promote sustainable farming systems and water saving practices across Thailand, about local edible plants that can be found in the area and how to reroot and plant trees. Finally, they enjoyed learning about the process of making paper from tree roots and flowers. A great educational experience!

IMG_9376 Panyaden School grade 3 student learning Northern Thai handicraft in Chiang Mai IMG_9382 Panyaden School student painting on Sa paper during Northern Thai Study field trip, Chiang Mai IMG_9368 Panyaden grade 3 field trip to study Northern Thai agricultural practices, Chiang Mai Panyaden Prathom 3 field trip to study Northern Thai agricultural practices, Chiang Mai

More photos here.

Panyaden Budding Day 2014-5

Panyaden School Budding Day 18-19 Sept 2014

Today, the students are our teachers,” remarks School Director Neil Amas about Panyaden’s Budding Day, a 2-day celebration of this term’s learning led by our students. Each day, parents were invited into the classrooms where our students began with homeroom presentations before moving on to one-to-one as well as group activities focused on subjects like Maths and Science, to demonstrate what they have learned in class. There was lots of interaction as parents asked questions, played games, danced, painted and worked out puzzles along with their children.

This end-of-term event is an informal opportunity for our parents to receive feedback from their children themselves of their progress in school. It’s also a great way to encourage our students to keep on learning and improving in all areas of school life each term.

Panyaden School Budding Day (Preschool) Panyaden School Budding Day - Preschool student performing Panyaden School Budding Day - Preschool students performing Panyaden Prathom student presenting to parents, Budding Day 19 Sept 2014 Panayden Prathom students presenting to parents on Budding Day

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