Monthly Archives: July 2016

Asanha Bucha Day

Panyaden International School marks Asanha Bucha Day in Chiang Mai

Panyaden students and teachers commemorate Asanha Bucha Day, an important day in the Buddhist calendar. Later, the Grade 3 class offered food and the candle the whole school made earlier in the week to the local temple, Wat Ban Sala. Candles are traditionally offered to monks at this time for Khao Pansa, a time when monks retreat for three months during the rainy season for contemplation and study.

_MG_4217 Parents joined in the Asanha Bucha Day 'vien tien' procession at Panyaden Internation School Chiang Mai _MG_4201 Panyaden International School pre-schoolers, Asanha Bucha Day PhotoGrid_1468550628733 Panyaden International School marking Asanha Bucha Day in Chiang Mai, Thailand

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Parent Spotlight, Issue 25 Panyaden Newsletter

Panyaden Newsletter 2016: Parent spotlight - Kindergarten 1 Leo's parents
We came to Chiang Mai because we wanted time and space to focus on our life and our children. When we saw the layout, the green space, the openness and peaceful environment at Panyaden, we knew right away that this is the place for our sons.’’, Asa and Hoa, parents of Leo in K1. Read more in Panyaden’s latest newsletter. Get your copy here now!

Live and Learn: Household Chores for Kids

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Why household chores are good for your kids

By Neil Amas, School Director

IMG_2845 Panyaden International School Director, Neil Amas
I read recently that 82% of today’s parents did regular household chores when they were young, but only 28% expect the same of their children1. Not wanting to be part of that 28%, I decided during the last school break that it was time my kids did more to help around the house. The ensuing battle was almost epic…. and is still being fought! But new research shows it is worth pursuing because the benefits to your child’s wellbeing are significant.

“Parents today want their kids spending time on things that can bring them success, but ironically, we’ve stopped doing one thing that’s actually been a proven predictor of success – and that’s household chores,” says author and developmental psychologist, Richard Rende2.

DSCF8168 Panyaden student doing chores at school in Chiang Mai during Giving WeekNo doubt the growing tendency to fill our children’s free time with play dates, outings, entertainment and after-school clubs has contributed to the dwindling emphasis on household chores. But research by Dr. Marty Rossmann of the University of Minnesota found that young adults who began chores at ages 3 and 4 were more likely to have good relationships with family and friends, to achieve academic and early career success and to be self-sufficient, compared with those who didn’t have chores. Dr. Rossmann believes that household chores help children build a lasting sense of mastery, responsibility and self-reliance3.

Learning to be kind and helpful at home builds empathy and leads to happiness. Venerable Ajahn Jayasaro points out that generosity is the cornerstone for cultivating a sense of wellbeing for oneself and between people. That is why Caga (being generous) is one of the school’s 12 Wise Habits. It is a catalyst for family togetherness because, as Ajahn Jayasaro notes, “few things enhance the sense of connection between family members as group acts of generosity”.

The theory is all well and good, of course, but many parents know that the actual practice of getting our children to do – let alone enjoy – household chores is another matter! With gentle but firm perseverance, though, it can be done. While my own kids remain reluctant and resistant at times, I have seen a growing acceptance as the routine becomes embedded and I have even noticed some singing along the way!

Here are some tips that may help get your kids to the washing-up bowl.

Make a chores schedule. A schedule of chores made by the child himself which he can tick off each day, creates a sense of personal accomplishment as well as serving as a visible reminder of what need to be done.

Are extra piano lessons necessary? Instead of scheduling another after-school club or a weekend of visits to the cinema or water park, give priority and due importance to household chores. Then your child will get the same message.

Start small. Add fun. You are more likely to get children involved if the tasks are manageable at the start and build up to bigger ones. Add tasks that your child might find fun, like learning how to use the washing machine.

Avoid rewards and punishments. We know that promising an ice cream or pocket money for completing a task does not develop intrinsic motivation. In fact, research suggests external rewards lower inner motivation. Similarly, saying: ‘Of course we can go to the park, just as soon as you finish your chores’ is better than ‘If you don’t do your chores, you’re not going to the park’. The first indicates that there is a natural consequence of not completing something on time. The second is presented as a threat or punishment which is likely to lead to resentment and doing one’s chores begrudgingly.

Benefits to all. Caga and empathy are more likely to be developed if chores benefit the whole family (like doing the family laundry or feeding the dog), not just oneself (like tidying one’s bedroom). Describing tasks as our chores instead of your chores further puts the focus on taking care of others.

Let your child know he is a being a helper rather than helping. Research shows that young children are more motivated by the idea of creating a positive identity – being known as someone who helps4.

Add choice. Involving children in choosing the tasks makes them more likely to buy in.

Don’t make chores into ‘chores’! If you yourself complain about doing the dishes or the pile of laundry that needs to be done, so will your children. Modelling a positive attitude towards household work is probably the best encouragement you can give.

Be consistent and stick to the time frame. If you don’t monitor the chores schedule or follow up every time tasks haven’t been done, your child will soon understand that she only has to do chores some of the time. Make sure that the chore is done within a time frame previously agreed with your child and that whatever was supposed to happen next – such as going outside to play – cannot happen until the chore is done.

It’s OK to help too! If your child is trying but really struggling it’s OK to say, “Well, it looks difficult for you today. Let me give you a hand to get it done before we go out”. Model such a behaviour and, who knows, our child might reciprocate one day and help us when we find it difficult to do ours!

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โดย นีล เอมัส School Director

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1See Why Children Need to Do Chores by Jennifer Wallace in the Wall Street Journal
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Panyaden Meditation Retreat

IMG_0963 Panyaden International School meditation retreat, July 2016
Panyaden teachers, staff from Mae Sai Hospital and other invited guests spent 4 days under the wise and kind guidance of Venerable Ajahn Jiew at Wat Pa Yen Boon in Chiang Rai. The retreat participants followed a daily routine that included morning and evening chanting, accompanying Ajahn Jiew on his daily alms round, daily chores, walking and sitting meditation, yoga and Dhamma talk and Q&A. Teachers have been reflecting on the wide benefits they got from the retreat and how they can apply these in the classroom. We are very grateful to Venerable Jiew for such a profound and enriching experience.

IMG_0619 Walking meditation and morning alms in Chiang Rai, Panyaden International School meditation retreat IMG_0864 Walking meditation and morning alms with Ajahn Jiew in Chiang Rai, Panyaden International School meditation retreat IMG_0907 Panyaden International School meditation retreat in Chiang Rai, July 2016 IMG_3661 IMG_3663 IMG_3665

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Panyaden Grade 3 Student Field Trip

P3 students learned about various agriculture techniques, plants and handicrafts native to Northern Thailand on their field trip to Northern Study in Mae Rim.
Prathom 3 students learned about various agriculture techniques, plants and handicrafts native to Northern Thailand on their field trip to Northern Study in Mae Rim. They found out about the King’s efforts to promote sustainable farming systems and water saving practices across Thailand, about local edible plants that can be found in the area and how to reroot and plant trees. Finally, they enjoyed learning about the process of making paper from tree roots and flowers. A great educational experience!

IMG_9376 Panyaden School grade 3 student learning Northern Thai handicraft in Chiang Mai IMG_9382 Panyaden School student painting on Sa paper during Northern Thai Study field trip, Chiang Mai IMG_9368 Panyaden grade 3 field trip to study Northern Thai agricultural practices, Chiang Mai Panyaden Prathom 3 field trip to study Northern Thai agricultural practices, Chiang Mai

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Panyaden Kindergarten Student Tents

DSC_3961 Panyaden School student in her tent!
As part of our ‘Green Fingers’ topic, Kindergarten 2-3 students learnt about the difference between man-made and natural materials. Students had to work out whether everyday items were man-made or from nature, then used all of the natural materials to make their own tents.

DSC_3991 Panyaden School kindergarten student making a green tent DSC_4001 Kindergarten students making a tent from natural materials, Panyaden School This is our tent! Happy kindergarten students, Panyaden International School File_007 This is our tent! Happy kindergarten students, Panyaden International School

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